When I first met Doug on Match. He had a big position with a top financial firm; I headed up public relations for a health-care nonprofit. On our first date, although we only kissed, he told me I wouldn't be the same when he was done with me. I knew he was right—I just didn't know what it meant. Neither of us did. Doug was tall with dark hair and eyes, but it wasn't his looks that unglued me.

If you've caught yourself saying this before then you should definitely read this. The act of being submissive is not what people assume it to be. In the Oxford Dictionary , submission is defined as, "The action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person". Submission is not forced upon anyone, it is a choice. Those who become submissive have chosen, by themselves, to allow their partner to control them. That has many variations. The point is, it was their decision, from beginning to end.

To my master, I am Kitten. I am twenty-four years old and petite, waiflike. My master is older and I would have it no other way.

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